Episode 5: What to Do When You Love Someone Who Keeps Hurting You

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Loving someone doesn’t mean sacrificing yourself. But when you love someone who keeps hurting you, it’s easy to feel trapped between your heart and your self-worth.

You tell yourself they don’t mean to, that they’ll change, that love is supposed to be hard—but what if none of that is true?

In this episode of the Love Clarity Podcast, I’m sharing what keeps so many people stuck in painful love—and how to begin reclaiming your power without losing your heart.

1️⃣ Why We Stay in Painful Love

💡 Core Insight: Love makes you hopeful. Trauma makes you tolerant.

We’ve been taught that love takes work. But no one said that work should mean suffering.

Many people who love deeply fall into the “I can fix this” trap.

You’re not in love with who they are now—you’re in love with their potential.

So you hold onto the best parts, ignore the rest, and get caught in this cycle:

They hurt you → They apologize (or pretend it didn’t happen) → You forgive them → Things feel good → They hurt you again.

This isn’t just emotional—it’s neurological. Your nervous system starts to chase the highs of “maybe this time it’ll be different.”

🛑 Key Insight:

“You’re not crazy for loving them. But love isn’t just what you feel—it’s what you accept. And if love keeps hurting you, something has to change.”

2️⃣ How to Reclaim Your Power

💡 Main Point: Loving someone doesn’t mean enduring them.

Here’s a 3-step process to help you break the cycle:

Stop explaining away bad behavior. Ask: Would I accept this for someone I love deeply—like a child or friend?

Watch how you excuse their behavior: “They didn’t mean it.” → That’s gaslighting yourself. “I’m too sensitive.” → That’s minimizing your pain. Instead, ask: If I fully trusted myself, what would I do?

If loving them means losing yourself, it’s time to choose you.

✅ PAUSE the cycle of justification

✅ CHECK your self-talk

✅ CHOOSE self-respect over temporary relief

3️⃣ Closing Thoughts

If this episode made you rethink your relationship, that’s a good thing.

Clarity is the first step to real love.

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🎙 Episode 5: What to Do When You Love Someone Who Keeps Hurting You
Loving someone doesn’t mean losing yourself. In this episode, learn why we stay in painful love, how the “potential trap” keeps you stuck, and the 3-step process to reclaim your power without guilt.
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